Thursday, February 24, 2005
People can really dampen your enthusiasm!!Mom's frustrated with my younger sis for the mess she's got herself into & because of that, she's fed up with me cos my future father-in-law may not be able to make it to our wedding in Dec as my mom's planned it to be. She thinks it's my scheme to postpone the wedding even further. Well, initially Kris & I planned it for April 2006, but she wanted it in Dec 2005. Not trying to be rude, we agreed. And now, she's mad at me cos Kris' dad can't make it that early!! We wanted April 2006, remember?!
Since we're already not doing the wedding in Belgium, I seriously think that she should be fair & wait for a suitable time for the parents to come for the wedding in Perth. After all, we've already agreed to do a reception in Singapore.
I'm irked by how we have to understand her position & do everything she wants... and she won't even consider the availability, capability & feelings of the in-laws!!
I feel like perhaps I shouldn't even do the one in Sgp, to be fair to the family in Belgium. I mean, we're not doing it there cos of the lack of budget, from doing it in Sgp. And if the Sgp party can't see how unfair they're being, then I see the need to uphold this fairness!! NO RECEPTIONS other than the one in Perth!!
I'm stuck with trying to be a good daughter-in-law by asking for a suitable time for my in-laws to come to Perth & being filial to my mom by doing watever she wants us to do. And then, there's the fiance who thinks that all these celebrations are a waste of money & time and would rather not help in the preparations!! And of course, there's the expensively rich tradition & custom to uphold.
I've been really patient with everyone & their comments... and I've been patient in undertaking all the searching for info & planning & getting inspired for ideas, etc etc... and I've been nice enough to undertake doing the wedding stationery myself, even forgoing the elaborate wedding dresses & hair and makeup artiste, by shopping for a simple prom dress & doing my own makeup & hair!!! I've even got my friends to source for vases (aka used bottles), photographer-friends, what-have-yous....
When is anyone gonna realise that I CAN do all these, if they just leave me alone?! Just try to understand me for once & offer to help... Stop with all the bitching & comments already... and all the whining... cos I'm sick of it!!!
SICK!!!
