Thursday, February 24, 2005
People can really dampen your enthusiasm!!Mom's frustrated with my younger sis for the mess she's got herself into & because of that, she's fed up with me cos my future father-in-law may not be able to make it to our wedding in Dec as my mom's planned it to be. She thinks it's my scheme to postpone the wedding even further. Well, initially Kris & I planned it for April 2006, but she wanted it in Dec 2005. Not trying to be rude, we agreed. And now, she's mad at me cos Kris' dad can't make it that early!! We wanted April 2006, remember?!
Since we're already not doing the wedding in Belgium, I seriously think that she should be fair & wait for a suitable time for the parents to come for the wedding in Perth. After all, we've already agreed to do a reception in Singapore.
I'm irked by how we have to understand her position & do everything she wants... and she won't even consider the availability, capability & feelings of the in-laws!!
I feel like perhaps I shouldn't even do the one in Sgp, to be fair to the family in Belgium. I mean, we're not doing it there cos of the lack of budget, from doing it in Sgp. And if the Sgp party can't see how unfair they're being, then I see the need to uphold this fairness!! NO RECEPTIONS other than the one in Perth!!
I'm stuck with trying to be a good daughter-in-law by asking for a suitable time for my in-laws to come to Perth & being filial to my mom by doing watever she wants us to do. And then, there's the fiance who thinks that all these celebrations are a waste of money & time and would rather not help in the preparations!! And of course, there's the expensively rich tradition & custom to uphold.
I've been really patient with everyone & their comments... and I've been patient in undertaking all the searching for info & planning & getting inspired for ideas, etc etc... and I've been nice enough to undertake doing the wedding stationery myself, even forgoing the elaborate wedding dresses & hair and makeup artiste, by shopping for a simple prom dress & doing my own makeup & hair!!! I've even got my friends to source for vases (aka used bottles), photographer-friends, what-have-yous....
When is anyone gonna realise that I CAN do all these, if they just leave me alone?! Just try to understand me for once & offer to help... Stop with all the bitching & comments already... and all the whining... cos I'm sick of it!!!
SICK!!!
Tuesday, February 22, 2005
It's Kris' 32nd birthday today. We're going out tonight for dinner & a movie. Planned to bake him a birthday cake, but had been online chatting with my aunt & a few friends as well as surfing the net for wedding stuff, and not done anything for him. I gave him his pressie last week along with his Valentine's Day gift so that he can enjoy it the whole week. He had been pretty down with getting older & the Beatle's #1 hits cheered him up quite a bit.There are so many problems in life & sometimes I don't understand why some people just wanna create more for themselves. Refusing people's help when u so need it, creating tension with others, taking up more stuff than u can handle & failing all else while trying to plan others... All in all, everything collapses with no proper planning & no blessings (where blessings are essential & mandatory, especially when dealing with the parents). Further to the collapse, more problems come out of it. Fire-fighting with life's problems is not a good advise I would give. The idea is to start with THOUGHT.
It's all about THOUGHT. You should have planned, thus requiring heaps of thinking, rationalising, negotiating, etc.
The proverb: It's the thought that counts... DAMN TRUE!! When you do something, you have to think for others. Especially when you have parents involved & you are the child. Parents are very sensitive in their old age and we should never disregard their feelings nor discard their involvement & importance.
No matter how right you think you are, there's always room for negotiation. Parents are not impractical zombies who'd want everything done their way. There is always a way of getting what you want while satisfying their needs. It boils down to how much you think of them.
Monday, February 21, 2005
I updated the template abit & something wasn't right. But before I could change it, BLACKOUT!!............... ~argh~Went to the lounge & did some knitting on the blue scarf... and my itchy fingers just had to start on the scandal scarf... After sitting without airconditioning in the house & boiling in the summer heat for more than 2hrs, I decided to clean the aquarium... cos it's starting to really look like pondscum!! Managed to clean the glass top & just then, the electricity came back on!! And I came straight back to the PC!! hehehe...
Ummmm... yeah, the fishes are swimming in the pondscum!!... hehe...
I cant get away from the pc cos I'm searching for a few traditional malay wedding dresses so that I can use some of the designs to make it a bit more modern to suit the groom's suit (ie. non-traditional). Was hoping to get something simple & cheap for the Perth wedding cos we'll have to save up for the Sgp celebration. There are so many things I need to do cos there'll be 2 celebrations in 2 separate continents!!
Anyway, the Perth wedding will be a small one & we'll have to look for a really inexpensive venue for the reception. We'll be printing our own invites & making the decorations for the bridal chamber, the reception hall & the car ourselves. Kris will be driving the Landrover Discovery himself to his own wedding... We'll be inviting our rellies in Perth and friends & colleagues. Very small, but cos we're trying to save, we'll have to run around & do everything ourselves... Lotsa details!!
The one in Sgp, mom is doing the footwork, trying to figure out how much different venues would cost. And I think she's already decided on the caterers & groomers... Well, it's not hard for her to get contacts cos she did bridal grooming when we were younger. Still, it's gonna be a simple celebration, but lotsa details nonetheless.
Anyway, the most important thing right now is for me to get a job... or there won't even be a wedding!! Gonna clean the house a bit now & then, I'll be right back into writing my resumes...
Friday, February 18, 2005
I've been down with a slight flu for the past few days & I realised that I always find time to have a cuppa whenever I'm sick... It's rather soothing & stops the runny sniffles just long enough to enable me to inhale from my nose again.I do enjoy a sip of Earl Grey & English Breakfast Teas, however, I don't understand why they have different names when each tastes remarkably like the other!! Perhaps enjoying it when I have got my sense of smell & taste back would do the trick? ~duh~ I shall make a mental note of it, or better still, I shall put it on my To Do List as a reminder.
Last nite was Late Night Shopping & Kris had to get something for my Mitsubishi Colt. He got me that in Dec 2003 hoping that I would get my driving license & has been working on it since then - tweaking, updating, changing and whatever else he deems should be done to that rust-bucket. Incredibly, it's no longer a rust-bucket now that he's done major works on it.
He's changed the engine so that I could have air-conditioning, especially for summer. He's changed the dashboard so that the AC & heater could work proper. He's got new seats & sheep-skin wool covers over them. He got a mirror for the left door & it took him about a year to finally find one at the carwrecks nearby - most Colts don't come with it. He fixed the locks, the window-winders, the doors!! He's even put in legal tinted windows. ~sheesh~ Maybe I should get my license soon, eh? Errrrr... u think? ~duh~
Well, while he was in MALZ, I went into Millers in Makro next door & got myself a pair of blue denim shorts just to wear around the house & a pair of beige denim capri, finally. I was actually looking for a blue cotton capri & a black one, but the only ones available are ugly box-cuts & the kinda cotton which would attract dust wherever u go! But I'm glad with my buys. May go to Crossroads another day.
Kris whisked me out of there & got us to Spotlight on the next street. We've only got 15mins to shop-closing. While looking for the yarns & needles, I fell in love with another type of yarn. It's called Scandal!! Thought it was $4.75/ball, but only paid a bargain $2.49 instead. It's pink, salmon & light yellow. I can't wait to get my hands on it, but I wanna finish the blue one & it's on the last bits!! WoO-hOo!!
Anyway, we both agreed that we can't shop in there for less than 1hr at least. So, we'll be coming back again!! And I so do want to try the new Tufty yarns - they are the ones that actually cost $4.75/ball... There are so many types of new yarns & new colours coming out, especially now that autumn is days away, and I'm spoilt for choice! I may do Ezzy's in those black yarn with little balls (it wouldn't look too girlish, Ezzy) instead of Patons black feathers & Ling's in pink Tufty instead of pink flutters. Oh, this is so exciting!!
That reminds me... I need to get #10 & #13 needles for those scarves with ginormous holes. I think I'm gonna give Tasha a very bohemian brown/red pair with the yarn that looks like tiny bottle-brushes. It's so soft though... Then again, since I'm making a bohemian-style one, perhaps I should get her a furry mohair yarn instead.... hmmmmm...
Ok, I'd better be getting back to my job search. Found a few, but they all look sucky!! Oh well, beggars can't be choosy!! And I need to write a couple of resumes for the 2 job offers that Kris found online for me!! After all the trouble he's gone through!! Wish me good luck, kiddos...
Wednesday, February 16, 2005
Can anyone remember all their past valentines? How about in chronological order? Hmmm... if someone really can, I dunno if he/she can do it without the help of a diary or a list. I was somewhat bitten by a memory bug yesterday...I can't remember when I first found out the meaning of Valentine's Day... nor who the first guy I ever wanted to be my Valentine was.
But I do remember making Watermelon Balls with my classmates in college during my first 3-months course for the campus pot luck. The pain-in-the-arse principal wanted to celebrate it seeing that it's a very important day for young people, but she called it Friendship Day cos she doesn't want us teenagers to have the idea that she condones romance in school. The Watermelon was unsuccessful, just like the date with David from SJI. Our classmate, Samer, kept following us around, blatantly unaware of why we went off on our own, away from our usual group.
After graduating from college, my best mate gave me a dozen huge yellow chrysanthemums at the upper level of McDonald's near the Bukit Batok MRT station. He said that they have more petals, compared to roses, for me to pluck to decide if I love him!! And the fact that roses were more expensive too!! All the kids & aunties & uncles there looked at me & smiled... hehehe... It was a really cute gesture from a practical Sagittarian!! I'm a Sag too... so, I understand where he's coming from!!
My bf in polytechnic was the sweetest bloke. He knows how much I hated roses... not only becos of its smell, and of course a little bit due to the cliche factor, but mainly becos I hate the impracticality of having to spend 10x the usual cost to get a flower that will die in 3 days. He bought me an inflatable heart-shapped balloon that was on a rose-like stem. It's so romantic... I held onto it that day with pride, full of love. I still have it in a box with all the other things he's ever given me... Even though it's in Sgp, I can still visualise what's in it...
In 2003, I had a 3-hr exam on the nite of Valentine's Day. Simon, as promised, drove to uni to fetch me home, but he's got too much work to do, so he didn't stay. I really wanted a friend over that night. Not becos I didn't wanna be alone for V Day, but more becos I wanted to celebrate the end of an exam! And the bloody Peter, was expecting some girl over for a late dinner... Less than 2weeks after, we broke up after being together for 9 months. Apparently, I wasn't the girl he would consider being full-time with. Oh well, it was fabulous while it lasted, cos he was really a nice fella. It happens.
Last yr, I moved in with Kris, had a grand V Day... and 1week later, my parents flew in for his Sunday birthday celebration & my Monday convocation. This year, he gave me a nice cotton summer hat (cos I lost my blue one). His birthday is next week & perhaps I'll bake him a cake... since I've already bought the candles & the ingredients... Anything for my
Today, I'm more in
with Kris than I was yesterday, last month or the year before. And I hope our love will grow as the days pass on by... 
Monday, February 14, 2005
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!Anyone up to anything today? Well... I'm just gonna wrap that hot red boxers I got for Kris, and later in the day, I'm gonna make a choco cake with real dark chocolate frosting. For dinner, I'm making his favourite sweet-sour fish with veggies served on fragrant rice. yuuummmmmzzzzz....
When I look upon my life with regards to celebrating this day, I realised that I've never looked at it as a bad day... However, I've never bought the extremely overpriced roses just for its obvious purpose, except if it was for a good cause - you know how some florists actually donate their sales of the roses to some charitable organisations? Well, yeah... I usually go for those... and then, either keep the rose(s) for myself, or give it to my mom or a friend. I think it's so much sweeter that way...
And u know how some of your single friends tried to rally u against the whole idea of showing love only on one day... and that it's become a bit of a cliche with the roses & hearts & all? Well, I don't find that it's wrong to show love on one day... Some people do need that jolt to remind them to treat their loved ones right even if it's for one day out of 365 others... And if the loved ones receive it, then it's not a lost cause...
I'm definitely all for showing love, respect, understanding, etc to our loved ones everyday. However, even for loving couples, it's nice to treat & be treated extra special. What's wrong with that?
And for singles, don't be bitter about it, you're not unloved... and if u really feel u're unloved, perhaps it's best to stop feeling sorry for yourself while waiting for others to show their love for you... Just feel love for yourself - go give yourself a flower (if u think roses are a cliche) & make sure to have a great meal... And maybe show you love others too... It feels better to be the one giving...
Whatever it is, always enjoy yourself with what you're doing & have a good day!!
Tuesday, February 08, 2005
I was looking at the calendar & the bold words stated "Shrove Tuesday". What is that?! Never heard of it. Well, I checked it up on google & found out it's also called "Pancake Day". Have a read.
Today is also the eve of Chinese New Year. And in Singapore, most people should be going home soon, cos they've been given a half-day off. The next 2 days should be red all around.
I'm not sure about Perth tho... Maybe I'll hear something... cos our neighbour is chinese... they might have a party or something cos for the past few days, they've been cleaning up their backyard!! And lemme tell u!! They are gross!! Their lawn is so high if their 2 dogs were dead somewhere in there, they wouldn't even notice it!!! Just like they didn't notice the dogs yapping, howling & barking non-stop every night - it woke the entire neighbourhood - but they didn't notice anything!!!
Anyway, Happy Chinese New Year to all...
Oh... and I've added my Weatherpixie from my previous url & created a new imood indicator.
Tuesday, February 01, 2005
It's the first of the month & early this morning I was suddenly awaken, not by Kris about to leave for work, but by a thought: "Have I flipped the calendar to Feb?"
WHAT THE...?!
Like a sleepy woman dragged out of bed involuntarily possessed, I trodded into the office & checked with blurry eyes the newly bought Beautiful Flowers calendar hung on the white cupboard/bookshelf. Oooph darn!! I'm 8hrs too late!! Oh well, I'll do it later... and scampered back into bed.
Well, it's changed to February now, and the bright sunflower is shining thru.
It's been a practice of mine, or an obsession really, that my calendar be flipped to the new month at the first stroke of midnight of the first day of the month eversince I've read somewhere that it brings good luck. Can't really remember why, but I've gotta do it at the stroke of midnite & not a second earlier or later!
